Office Lady Is More Charming

Some time ago I wrote an article called Housewife vs Career Women Can We Have it All?. This article have brought a lot of traffic to my blog, which I was surprised about, because I didn’t thought there were so manywomen asking themselves what is better if being housewife or a Career Woman. As I explain in my previous article some of us dreamed of having a career and being successful professionally talking. Some people portrait career woman as this bitchy ladies that they would castrate guys if they would have the opportunity; or they are also portrait as dominant women that treats the husbands like doormats and neglect children. While there are women like that that has more to do with the core of the person that if the woman is professionally active or not. I have seen very good mothers that have careers and horrifying mothers that are housewife.

I also think that we must understand that some people have the necessity to do things outside of the household, some people have necessity of intellectual challenges. In the last decades the societies of different countries have focus in educate girls with equality ideas, telling them they can achieve everything guysdoes, and it is true, but what about the boys?. Boys also should be educated, they must understand they are not above the domestic work or the children care. If both persons share 50% of the house work, there is no necessity of overwork women.

I agree with some women that said that in the last couple of decades women have the double of the work load, but what about guys?, they keep having the same amount of work than before, sometimes they even have less, because in the first half of the XX century they have all responsibility of bring money to their home, if they didn’t do it, the wife and kids will starve. Now they don’t have that much pressure because if they loose the job, they still can back with the wife’s salary if she works. In essence we have take workload out of the guys shoulders and put it over ours. That is why is imperative to share tasks with our partners and also look for the support of the family.

It always amazes me seeing how many guys still can’t even do their own laundry, and this is totally wrong. Mothers teach girls how to clean and how to cook, but they don’t do the same with the boys, so as a consequence boys think they are above all of those chores.

Career Women don’t automatically makes bad mother or wife, I am always amazed when I go to my fiance’s parents apartment, very often I found his father cleaning the floor, and whenever his mother have to do the laundry he always helps her. So they both have the same workload at the house. I think the key is that we have to stop believing that the children responsibility are only a woman’s work and father is only the ATM of the house. Also we are underestimating the benefits of the daycare centers, in daycare centers (the good ones), children learn how to socialize with other children. When I was a child my mother had the possibility to stay at home with me because my health was very fragile when I was a child, but the pediatrician that was treating me told her that I should go to daycare because that would make me a more independent kid. Under any circumstance I am saying that it is good leaving our children on daycare until 6pm or 7pm because we are working. I don’t condone the women that don’t take care of the children for being working long hours, or women that treats the husbands horribly and neglet children. I believe a good balance can be achieved only if we choose as a partner a man that is willing to share the house and children responsibilities 50%, a man that doesn’t care if he has to make some homework with the children, a man that cooks if he has too, a man that is willing to take the children to the park or to museums, in generally a man that is willing to devote himself to his wife and his children just like a wife should do, and when I mean devote himself I am not talking about bringing good money to the house, it is have dedication to his family. Career Women don’t make bad mother’s, but they do need a support network including the husband and family. Some Career Women think that they must be perfect and they should be superwomen, well there is no such a thing as a superwomen, it is OK to be vulnerable and it is OK to ask for help, but your partner also should be there for you all the time.